After throwing a bridal shower recently for a dear friend, it got me thinking that there are a lot of people out there who are unpracticed on what to do, and what not to do, at a bridal shower.   As a bridesmaid, you have to make sure you’re one of the gals who is on the up-n-up about etiquette. 

Use these tips to help make ensure you are a super shower guest…


Bring a gift.  Group gifts are perfectly acceptable.  My girlfriends and I always go in on a group gift – this way, the recipient gets something spectacular while not breaking the bank.

Be gracious.  Remember that those hosting the party have opened their home to you, and have spent a lot of time planning and preparing.  Just like you learned in kindergarten, say thank you. 

Participate.  Let’s be honest – nobody loves the games we have play at bridal (and baby) showers.  If you are moaning and groaning about having to participate, though, you will make the bride feel bad.  So just embrace the silliness and have fun – I’m often surprised about how competitive I end up being and how much I find myself laughing during game time.  Seeing her friends and family laughing and having a good time tells the bride that you all are enjoying her shower, and this is important to her.

Watch the Clock.  If the shower is supposed to end at 2:00, and it’s 2:15, be one of the first to offer to help clean up.  This will hopefully prompt other guests to wind things up as well.  

Focus on the bride.  It’s easy to go off in your own corner and chat with the people you know, especially if you haven’t seen each other in awhile.  It’s also easy to get caught up in conversations about the millions of things going on in your own life.  Just remember that the shower is about the bride – she’s so excited to be getting married, so try to gear conversations toward fun things about the couple, their engagement, honeymoon, etc.  This will make her feel like everyone is truly there for her.


Shower on, ladies.